Let's exchange hair-raising tales of bad roommates. They drive you crazy. They make you insane. Who's had a roommate who borrowed clothes without asking? Or mother you, tell what to eat, how to dress or how to do your job? It's happened to all of us.
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ANNOYING ROOMMATES
Friday, December 29, 2006
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Wednesday, December 27, 2006
I will try to keep the housemates that I have
Well,I found this site while I was posting for a new housemates, and after reading this, I think maybe I will try to keep the housemates that I have.
First of all, I disagree with the term 'roommate' unless you are actually going to share a 'room'. I am proposing to rent a room in a condo. I am renting space. I am not renting myself out as an advisor (legal, psychological or otherwise), I will not show my condomate how to connect his/her computer, nor do I expect to share communal meals or meal planning. I carefully select my condomates by their work schedule--the longer they work (8 hour minimum) and further away, the better. They must work a minimum of 8 - 5 Monday through Friday.
I turned down a couple of guys because they were mortgage brokers, realtors, etc. who had 'flexible schedules' and worked out of the house a lot. I turned down one guy because he was too fat and I didn't want him ruining my bed and couch, nor did I want the inconvenience of trying to get by him in the kitchen or the hall.
I go out of my way to accommodate my condomates' schedule and not be using the kitchen, or washer and dryer when they are home. I am so quiet that my condomate will not hear me when I come in, when I leave or when I move from room to room. I would like my condo mate to do the same, but it is not necessary. Their noise does not necessarily bother me unless they address me directly or knock on my door, etc.
I watch TV in my room. My condomate can do so in his/her room. There is no TV in the living room. There is free wifi available, and there will be cable. I have an unlimited long distance phone line and a separate fax line.
I don't expect to be talked to every time I walk through the condo. I won't speak to the condomate, he/she doesn't need to speak to me. In fact, I do now and hope to in the future rent to a couple so that they will entertain each other, solve each other's problems and not bother me.
The condomate has the master bedroom with private bath. I have the other bath, and share it only with the tenant in the other bedroom. I do not entertain, and I do not want a condomate who entertains. Guests will be only on special occasions, and there is no "guest bathroom". If the condomate has an occasional guest, the guest uses THEIR bathroom.
My office is off limits as is my bedroom and the area immediately outside it. NO ONE knocks on my door. If the condomate wants to contact me he/she can leave a message on my voicemail. I check it when I feel like it. When I want to contact my condomate about an issue, I leave a note under the door or call their cell, usually leave the note.
I expect the condo mate to clean up after him/herself in the kitchen and his/her own room. I and the other condomate are responsible for the rest of the condo. I always leave the vacuum cleaner out because I do not want to be bothered to get it for them.
In my opinion, I offer my condomate the best of both world--sharing costs with a condomate who is like not even there at all.
When I had the female condomate alone, I did try to socialize with her a little as I felt sorry for her. And she was SO NEEDY. She makes 'notice me' noise everytime she comes out of her room--cough, sigh, sneeze, breathe deep, yawn, right outside my room. Then she goes into the kitchen--bang, bang, slam, pause, bang, bang, slam, pause, again and pause, then "Are you in there?" referring to my office in the dining area which I have done everything to to separate from the rest of the condo except building a soundproof wall keeping people from coming in. (But when I get some extra money, I will do that.) When her boyfriend came to live with her, I thought it would get better and it has, but she still makes the 'notice me' noise right in front of my bedroom door as she passes it.
These people NEVER GO ANYWHERE --except to work. So they are there ALL WEEKEND LONG EVERY WEEKEND! I am so glad I would not allow a TV in the living room! Forturnatly they are so TV addicted, they only run out to the kitchen to use the washer or micowave and then run back into their rooms. Otherwise, these slugs would be sitting on the couch from Friday to Monday.
Also, she has lived with me for 27 months and has only been on time with the rent 4 times. Her rent is due 10 days before I pay, and I still have to stress out over having the rent. Now her slug boyfriend has moved in with her, and she is STILL late on the rent???? Also, she/he pull out the washer and never put it back, so I have to do it. But like I said, after reading some of these people's experiences, my problems are pretty small.
OK, people, I know from reading these posts that there are worse roommates out there, but from what I read the problems were as much the fault of the renter as the rentee. Like it would be a cold day in hell before the condomate could borrow my car (or before I would ask the condomate to borrow his/hers). When my car is down, I rent one or take the bus. The condomate could do the same.
Let's get this straight. I'm renting space and the utility services that go with it. I don't say hello and goodbye and goodnight to my condomate. I don't explain my absences or why I have been out late, and I don't want to know their stories. I rent them the room and I let them be, let them have their privacy. I want mine.
So what do you people think? Am I way out of line? Do most people who rent rooms actually want to do this to interact with other people? Wouldn't everyone who could afford it rather have their own space and privacy?
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I will never have a roommate again!!!!
I was in the process of getting a divorce and I had a big home at the time and thought about renting out a room to make ends meet.Well,I put an ad in our local paper and got alot of responses.Each time I set up an interview.I met a older guy who seemed quiet and said he would help out in the house-ie:fixing stuff.
He always pays his rent on time and it seemed too good to be true-It was-he was very loud even just walking he was a small framed guy but it sounded like a herd of elephants when he was walking through the house.He always had his girlfriend there.Which was no problem.But as time went by he was late in paying rent saying he was sick and couldn't work-I was nice enough to let it slide but he was late all the time.One day he was very on edge and calling up a person and getting very loud and cursing and when his girlfriend tried to calm him down he hauled off and hit her right in front of me and my boyfriend.My boyfriend was a larger man then him and he didn't let that sit well with him hitting a woman.So,they got into it and my roommate locked himself in his room.While his girlfriend was a mess-bleeding etc.I asked her if she would press charges and she said yes. So,I called the police and they came right away.
Well,comes to find out my lovely roommate was on parole for manslaughter and he was sick from coming down off heroin! That is why he was calling up a certain person and cussing at him...it was his drug dealer!!The police hauled him away and put him in jail and I was stuck with his junk and his parents who were elderly couldn't take his stuff.I kept getting threatening calls from him in jail and telling me if I throw his stuff out he would come after me! I had to go and get a PPO out on him.It was a plain mess.I will never have a roommate again!!!!
Lori
Plastic cup
I had a roommate who would write my name on a plastic cup and expected me to drink from the same plastic cup everyday, in my own house! I would throw the cup out everyday when I came in, and the next day there would be another.
I am happy to say that this lunatic is out of my house now, and is an over the road truck driver, just what the world needed!!
David
Friday, December 22, 2006
I think I had the WORST roommate EVER!
In September of this year I met my now girlfriend. She would come over to my apartment every day and hang out, even if I wasn't there; we weren't a couple until the end of October. In early October, she said that one of her best friends got stuck in the middle of a bad situation that was out of his control and was just released from prison. (My girlfriend was also on parole but don't judge yet.) They had been friends for 2 years and she trusted him enough to bring him to my place so I let them hang out. The 3 of us hung out for about a week and I started getting buried in financial problems. I was going to rent out my bedroom and I would have a "room" in the dining area.The guy was super-sweet and had very good manners. So polite and considerate too. He was working a construction job but didn't like the place he was living and so we made an arrangement for him to be my new roommate. Things were cool for about 1 week. The more time I spent with my now GF, the more I was falling in love with her. She was pretty much living with me too at this point. Finally, one night, she sucked it up and spilled her heart out to me. We came to the conclusion, after hours of talking, that we wanted to have a relationship. But there was a little problem. My male roommate had made it very clear that he liked me, even though he knew I was a lesbian. So my GF decides that she will talk to him first about it before we set anything in stone.
That was where the tension began. The small talk errupted into a screaming match between my GF and my roommate. They were never able to reconcile their problems. My GF and I decided that if he was going to be a dick about the whole thing, then we would just do our own thing. There would be times when her and I would just be sitting next to each other on the couch, watching tv or something, and she would have her arm around me or her hand on my leg, but nothing more than that ever. He would get all pissed off then slam the door and start punching the walls and turn on his "Ministry" CD at like Mach 10 sound; which is really annoying and my neighbors have had us written us up for it.
That went on for weeks. It was so frustrating. We would have to make up excuses to be alone together for 30 seconds. It wasn't but 2weeks after he moved in that his job "just wasn't working out". I told him I would drive him to job interviews whenever he needed but he needed to get a job asap. He said he would but only went to 2 interviews in 3 months.
In early November, my GF was arrested and is stuck there for awhile. So it was just me and the ass-hole. The first weeks or so were actually alot better then I had expected. I think he was happy that my GF (his supposed BFF) was gone and he thought he could get a "rebound-fuck" or something. He was helpful and we (I thought) became like brother and sister.
He started acting wierd: staying up all night, constant quick phone calls-then he would take off for hours, then it became constant incoming calls all hours of the day and night. He would answer and say either yes or no then would run outside for a few minutes then come back in like that was nothing. I suspected that he was using and selling drugs in the apt.
Then he started having all sorts of girls over ALL the time. He wouldn't even ask me if it was cool. (This was late Nov early Dec-and he STILL hadn't paid rent). I started getting really irriated with him so I would do things like unplug the phone jack, and put passwords all over the stuff he wanted to use on the computer/internet. I would act like I had no idea what was going on but he knew and would start in his little rage fits.
I was scared of him. I'm 5'2", 135 lbs and he was 6'5" 220 lbs and looked like a biker, with a bald head and long mustauch complete with lots of tattoos. I started to just not come home for days at a time, then when I got home he would scream at me that he was looking for me cause he needed to use my car for a job interview. Whatever. One day he left for awhile so I looked through his stuff. I found a bunch of my stuff hidden in his room but then I found his prison/parole paperwork. This guy was/is Bi-Polar, has multiple personality disorder and is supposed to be on heavy psyc meds. He had also gotten in 4 or 5 fights in prison and the CO's noted that he had "worrysome behavior that leads to violence"-or something like that.
I wasn't sure what to do just yet and didn't confront him until a couple days later. Well what sent me over the edge to finally tell him was something I found on my computer. I was going through all these hidden folders cause I was getting alot of viruses and in looking through one file, I found pictures of my roommate wearing my red lacy bra and white lacy underwear. Just sittin' there on the couch with his hairy chest. He had taken the pics himself from my webcam.
I was totally disturbed by them and I got up, walked into his room and said flat out: "I don't want you selling drugs out of my house anymore." He simply said "ok, I wont." Then I started in about the disrespect he had been showing me lately, so he brought up the fact that something was missing from his room, so I brought the fact that the things that was missing was MINE; what else was mine was the computer and I didn't appreciate the porn he had on there not to mention the pics of him I had just found. He was floored. We were both yelling at that point and my friend who was over, heard everything-and he knew that. He got so pissed and said that his private business was his private business.
I rebutted with the fact that the computer was mine so I had every right to go through all the files. He said that the pics weren't supposed to be there. I told him they were and that I would delete them but he needed to get out-that night. He said he had been looking for other places already and that since he was living there for more than 30 days, he had 30 days to get out. I simply walked out and called the local PD to ask them if it was true, they confirmed and gave me the # the the Marshall. The next morning he came out of his room and started yelling, calling me a bitch, cunt, yadda yadda yadda. He even threated to punch my friends face in. I got the phone and started calling his P.O.-he hadn't checked in in 2 months. He got more pissed and started throwing stuff and we got in a screaming match.
Some girl came by around 10 am to pick him up, as he was leaving, I asked for my keys back. He said he would give me the keys when he was all done moving out. I told him it had better be today and he said fuck you, then walked out. I was upset and scared so I was gonna stay with a friend. Well when I walked out to my car...it was gone. That's right. The fucker stole my car. Along with ALL my personal information, previous bills, medical info, computer logons...everything. I did get my car back and he was arrested at the time for the GTA. That cost me a whole day and $135 and left me frustrated to Hell with my local PD for giving me the run around. Oh ya-AND he called me collect from jail and left a message saying "you'll regret this" A few days later, I got a knock at the door. I saw 3 scruffy looking guys; I thought they were friends of his coming to kick my ass. But I answered the door anyway-(dumb move). I was immediately advanced upon and had a search warrant for my home. It was the cops. From another city too. They were looking for my roommate and I told them he was already back up in Chino and asked what this was all about.
You're not gonna believe this....He was trying to hook up with a 13 year old girl online and was selling drugs. (That 13 year was old more like a 20-something undercover cop) The cops were pissed that they couldn't bring him in and absolutely TORE my place apart. In his room, in the stuff he had left behind, there was a pipe and a big baggie of drugs. The cops were assholes and I told them it was his, but I could tell that they didn't want to leave my place empty handed. My friend who was with me was on probation and I have no record so I told the cops I would take the charge for the drugs.
They said that they didn't want someone to just TAKE them, they wanted to know who it belonged to. After working it out with them, I was arrested and booked, 3 cities away. Turns out that what I thought was gonna be a misdemeanor, was a felony. I now have a court date for a felony. The ass-hole was released (COP'd) has been trying to hack my computer and is trying to get full administrator access to all my utilities and phones.
I have MORE than learned my lesson on roommates: never again!
Lindsey
Monday, December 18, 2006
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Geez, that reminds me of 3 months ago when I returned to Arizona! I took a house rental on 116th and Alabama. NEVER AGAIN FOLKS! NEVER AGAIN. Oh my gosh...I decided to put a roommate ad on myspace searching for a decent roommate offering a place around the area, and decided to see how it went.
There was this big fat lady who answered it back and directed me to her profile. Ugh. Ok, now I figured I'd be nice and hospitable and make it work. I try to not look at people only from the outside and said to myself come on now, don't be shallow.
I wish I would have been shallow AND crude now.
It was all nice and wonderful over email, myspace, and even on the phone until I got there! It turned out that this nasty 380lb plumper wanted me to be her sex slave and worship her for being a BBW! I said HELLL NOOO!!! I am NOT into that. Then she told me ok, well if you want to be my roommate and you don't want to sleep with me, you have to be gone at least 13 hours per day to give me time to find and fuck other men. WHAAAAT?! WHAAAT?!! Omg. I came there to be a roommate, NOT an on-call dildo for the Michelin-man's sister. And I wasn't going to pay to live there when I wasn't allowed to live there! Wtf. She decided that she didn't want a roommate after I told her there might be times I'm not at work for more than 8 hours and decide to come home and spend time at my room. She wanted me to move out at the end of the month, but I told her if she gave me even half of what I paid her back I'd move out the next day. It was a deal.
Today's lesson: Never, EVER move in with a fat nasty sex-crazed BBW from myspace! You'll regret it.
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
The roomates are for lack of a better term retarded
I have been rentin a room for 4 mos now. Nice house. The roomates are for lack of a better term retarded (with the exception of one). I should back up a bit. Two roomates were asked to leave due to excessive partying, possible property theft, and having female guests just walk into tenant rooms (mainly mine) in the middle of the night.
One current roomate is chummy with the home owner. She basically has no prospects of ever being a homeowner or renter (being honest here). She comes home from work to sit in the garage and smokes like a chimnee (does the same thing in the morning before going to work). Never opens the garage door even a small amount for ventilation. She reminds me of a 10 watt light bulb that is ready to burn out (she had some issues growing up and basically appears to be traumatized; loud talker and basically gives the impression of being someone who has been lobotomized). This person remains chummy with the homeowner becasue she has no place to go (the homeonwer is listing his house due to being in over his head financially; he is having this roommate be his listing agent. She's done NOTHING to market it and has't even renewed her local NAR dues for listing purposes). The 2nd roomtae is new and is not much brighter (maybe a 15 watt bulb approaching the end of it's life span). The third new roomate is hardly home, so I cannot formulate an opinion.It is a sad situation. I just keep to myself. I am a working professional who has to bight his toungue alot. On the other hand, it is kind of pathetically sad to casually observe how others live their lives. I am basically watching two depressed people smoke themselves to death.
Sunday, December 10, 2006
Several stories
Hi there
i have a lot of roommate stories
i will offer them now and then over time as i can't type fast
i read the posts you have already and as bad as they are i have seen much worse
I have a huge home in Tampa on the water and i have two very nice rooms I rent out.
the housemates that are the worst are the ones who agree to move in and then you never hear from them again after showing your home and wasting your time and you get the feeling they may return to rob you or worse.
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another really bad problem is that they don't change their address from mine after they leave. One guy who was a retired Army COLONEL (steve) was here less than 6 weeks by mutual agreement, he wouldn't ask me if I wanted him to do something around the house, he would go ahead and do it WRONG.his mail came here for a year after that, i could tell there were all kinds of duns and summons for debt, he even had given out my phone number so that i got calls from his debtors looking for him.
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two men in the past year and a half were computer consultants making a lot of money (I verified it) and were such stupid careless drunks that they were a threat to the welfare of my home and pets. One (Greg Sides) had an accident while drunk and ran from the police to my home. Later some people showed up here who he had hit and there was a huge argument.
the other (Mark Ducharme) i found sitting on the back porch one day when I walked in and the house was close to 100 o F with both air conditioners running. The 6 foot kitchen doors were wide open and
he was outside smoking cigarettes and blind drunk. When I asked him why he got mad and packed up and left.
a short time later I got a flood of mail for him from attorneys, sure enough his photo and arrest record are online for felony DUI
i've tried to reach him but his phone is cut off and I tried to reach his dad to complain about the mail still coming in months after he moved out.
I now also have a policy to not have vegetarians in my home..
it is usually an excuse for them to not buy groceries and to not eat right so that their brains don't work right.
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I got another roommate just before I had to leave town for a month. Coy Dukes said he had a dog and I told him roommate pets were not allowed except if caged. He agreed to have his dog go to his brothers while he lived at my home...I came back and he said my dog was shedding very badly all the time.
she usually only sheds twice a year....
she has long gray hair, the house was covered with short black hair, i mean EVERYWHERE, floating in the air, under the furniture in huge gobs, even in the refrigerator
I found out he had a huge Lab field dog and had her sleeping in the bottom of his closet of his room while I was gone. She was also very intimidating to my lady dog who is a medium size shepherd and was used to being the alpha dog. the other dog dominated her, 'dogged' her
He also was a drinker and one day he smoked some fish outside an other unused room. I went in there about a week later and opened a window and the horrible stench filled the house..I went outside and found he had left a whole fish in the smoker.
He had promised to help take care of the house but turned out to be lazy and inept, lost his job and sat around for a few weeks doing nothing but playing on his computer and fishing. He was surprised when I told him he had to leave ASAP because I was tired of cleaning up after his dog.
the mail still is coming in here in huge bundles for him,
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Another one, Richard Dixon, disappeared one day and a few days later I found out he was in jail, he didn't come back for his stuff for a year. That was several years ago and I still get mail for him now and then.****************
ANOTHER one did not want to use the spare computer I had available for him to use... I went away for a weekend and was supposed to be back on Tuesday
I disassembled most of my computer but when I came back on Monday early I found it was all put back together and sure enough had been used to go to many porn sites.
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Another who called himself Savign I found laying out nude in the back yard one day in full view of the workers building the apartments across from my back yard. He smoked so much pot he was incoherently stupid most of the time. I left for one weekend and when I came back the pool was dark green
he had taken the chlorinator out of the pool
when i asked why he said because he didn't know what it was.
He rarely had the rent money (paying by the week) and when I told him he had to leave after just a month because he wasn't paying he refused and got extremely abusive. I even videotaped him being hysterical and threatening me but he apparently knew the law and I couldn't evict him for weeks during his abuse of me and my home
he would turn on the hot water in the shower and leave for work, turn the air conditioning down to the 50's, anything he could do to cost me money or trouble.
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I go for long periods of time without housemates but with poor health and a lot to do it is good for me to have someone around at least part of the time. the small bit of rent is often offset by damage done and jacked up utilities, so much sneakiness and rarely any responsibility for mistakes, I didn't find out the bathroom sink was leaking and ruined the cabinet till after Coy moved out, he had tightened the throat of the drain down with a wrench so much (supposed to be 'hand tightened') that it squeezed all the plumber's putty out and therefore leaked more than when he started....
two of them had Hepatitis C and never told me...
I have been roommate with others for almost 6 years
I have been roommate with others for almost 6 years now, during my undergrad years and now graduate studies. So, I have a lot of experince about this. My advice to everybody is
never sign a lease with someone that you don't know for at least one year. Even if you know the person, still now you have to be very careful. Month to month is the best option, you can get out whenever you want without penalty. Always go and see the place and the person, look to see if the person is clean or not. Drug, trash, alcoholisim, and all of these things. you know. Make sure that everything about the cost and sharing is well understood before you move in. Avoid cheap people. they will cost you omore to get rid of them. Try to have your own private bathroom. It is the source of many problems.
good luck
Thursday, December 07, 2006
Living with a slob
My worst experience was a roomie that other than being a slob, actually took condoms from an unopened box without asking. I am a safety person and hope that others are too but PLEASE buy your own! He never even replaced what he used. Kinda creeps me out too because he had an airmatress to sleep on and I had a sleeper sofa. I shudder to think what happened when I was out of town.
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Tuesday, December 05, 2006
Practicing Stripper
In my forth year of university I answered an ad in the school centre for a roommate. Quiet nondrinking muslim girl looking for a roomie. Rent was cheap and since I'm on the wagon, figured why not. Nice girl. Divorced when she caught her husband in bed with his friend, and it turned out she was a stripper. It was a wild and wacky couple of months. Sort of fun and well... she did practice her routine at home and ask for reviews. Never brought my girlfiriend over thats for sure. Guy friends always were dropping by for no reason though.
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